The Short on
- You promised your spouse you would get milk and bread on your way home, but you arrive home empty-handed.
- Yesterday, you put a document in a "safe" place but... where could that be?
- Five minutes ago, you were introduced to a prospective client. What was his name again?
- Driving to an important appointment, you take the wrong exit because this is the one you are used to.
Sounds familiar? If you can recognize yourself in at least one of those examples, keep reading because you are suffering from short term memory loss. As long as you are not suffering from a mental disease – such as Alzheimer's – or from a chemical imbalance, you can take advantage of the advice in this article.
Imagine a cluttered room with piles of books, papers, and any possible type of junk you can think of – maybe you have such a room in your house. Now try to locate something in it within a few seconds. It may be a difficult task. The same happens to our mind: short term memory loss means that the mind is cluttered like a messy room.
We are overloaded by information and preoccupied by tasks and deadlines. We tend to defer most things, or we leave them unfinished and this becomes "normal" for our subconscious mind. When we really have to do something – like buy some milk – our subconscious mind thinks it is one of those tasks that can be left unfinished and it doesn't file the information properly.
Other times, we may be resentful, regretful, anxious or experiencing a feeling that doesn’t have anything to do with the task at hand. In other words, our mind is not present, i.e. we are absent-minded.
How to deal with short term memory loss
Change your expectations
Very often, we admit we are forgetful, and we actually accept it as a fact. But when we deal with memory, only thoughts are involved, so every thought counts. So by saying "I am so forgetful", "I have a terrible memory" or "It is difficult to remember", you are creating a self-fulfilling prophecy and a vicious circle of short term memory loss. You are actually teaching yourself not to remember.
Instead, tell yourself that you will easily remember what you need to remember. Change your expectations of yourself and see yourself with someone with a great memory.
You can write down what you need to do on paper or electronically, or we can use a small recording device with your voice. The important part is to look at your list or listen to your recording. Too often, once an item is on the list, we trust it is also written in our brain. Not so! Check what you have committed to achieve, and then do it.
The best way to declutter your mind is to do some sort of relaxation on a regular basis. It can be as simple as listening to music or taking a good book. When he needed to clear his mind, Albert Einstein used to play the violin. This allowed him to remove the clutter from his brain and make clear paths for his intuition to flow in.